[This was channeled a while ago, but the trend continues. More often than not, I received the Card on Charity, so this was the start of it. — Rob]
Rob: Yeah, this is gonna be my personal guide, Malika [who appears to me as a dancer and always having fun]. She’s literally skipping down the roadway.
So Malika, anything to share about the card on Charity? What is it that I need to know, since I’ve gotten the card three times in the last week and a half?
Malika: Hey, Rob! Just having a fun day. I know your day might have been somewhat trying, but that’s why we need to connect — to remind you to just have fun, to see the glory in all life in all its forms.
Yes, three year olds [my grandson] can be trying, but that’s only because you’re trying to put them in a box. The spirit of a three year old is free; wants to explore, wants to play, moving from one set of toys or activity to another, completely uninhibited by any sense of rules. It is the adults who are trying to place rules and constraints, and I would encourage you to put yourself into the mind, into the body, into the spirit, of a three year old. Just have fun. That’s what life is meant to be.
And the whole notion of Charity, yes, it really is about being charitable to yourself. You have no problem with giving to others, giving of yourself to others. This is a strength. The real lesson for you, though, is are you really allowing for the energy, the love, to return? Are you taking that in? And just as importantly, are you being charitable to yourself? As you pointed out, there are markers that say perhaps not.
So take this as an opportunity to feel what it means to be charitable to yourself. You’re feeling at this point, having so much to do, [that] your to do list never ends. There’s always something calling you, asking you to perform some task … relax! It’ll all get done, sooner or later. Whether it’s paying the bills, doing boat work, doing the yard work, it’ll all get done. It always does. Just have fun with it.
These are things that you do. They don’t define who you are. Just something to occupy your time while you’re here, in between times of having fun. And there’s no reason that doing those activities themselves can’t be fun. So I would encourage you, as the Buddha has pointed out, that even in the paying of bills — a task as mundane as that, loaded with such emotional energy — can be viewed as a return to yourself, putting something out to the universe and allowing whatever the universe wants to return to come back to you. Take that in. Feel the growing strength within you to deal with this more and more in the future. That in itself can be a lot of fun.
So you know me. That is my trademark — it’s all about having fun, about dancing through life. I know you don’t like to dance, but WE will work on that … and yes, I’m including your teammate in that.
So with that, I will allow others to ask any question that they may have.
Teamamate 1: Malika, I’m delighted to be speaking with you. I feel like I know quite a bit about having fun and dancing my way through life, so I celebrate with you. And as far as helping Rob get loosened up enough to become giddy enough to become silly, to become inventive with his mannerisms, to be more … I’m thinking of when he’s with his little grandson and he’s feeling that feeling of opposition that there might be some bit of playful technique that might help him. Is there something you could add?
Malika: First, thank you. Thank you for the question on behalf of Rob. And let me say I applaud you for your use of the word “celebrate.” That is, in fact, the attitude that we should all hold.
As for your question for Rob, largely, I would suggest that he do as exactly as I had suggested previously: put himself into the mind, into the place, of a three year old. When you’re playing with the three year old, be a three year old. There is no inhibition there. Whatever pops into their little minds, as inventive as that is, will come out as an expression of pure joy, of pure fun. Do that!
Teamamte 2: I actually have two questions. But I’m gonna start with the example of Rob finishing his book. As he described it, it kind of felt like (the energy of it) being an arduous task, and I’m wondering if you can help Rob in any way to make such tasks more joyful and light and playful when he is in this creation? … Because he’s infusing that energy when he’s writing. So is there anything that you can share with him when he is working on such projects?
Malika: That is very astute of you. I included that in that list of tasks, because that is how Rob is viewing it at the moment. When he first started compiling all the information to include in the manuscript, it was an act of pure inspiration, of invention, of playfulness, in the possibilities of what this could mean. And Rob has admitted that in the beginning of a creation project, he has all sorts of energy for it. But near the end, and wrapping it up, and buttoning it up, and putting a bow on it to send it out to the world, It becomes, as you said, arduous or, as he says, a slog.
So again, you have hit the nail on the head, as it were. So my suggestion to Rob is to go back to the beginning. Remind yourself why are you doing this in the first place. And as you suggested in the discussion on creation, see what the end result will be. Remind yourself continually what the end result will be — what that looks like, what that feels like, as a product out in the world, shining brightly for all those who need to find it. The book, in itself, will be a lighthouse for those who need it.
Teammate 2: Okay, so my other question — and if it’s too personal, you don’t have to answer it — but I’m going back to the dancing, because Rob, like my spouse, does not like to dance. So I’m only surmising, that it’s just a fear of letting go and people judging of what you look like for being silly and maybe off beat and just having fun and moving. And I wonder, if that’s the case, is that spilling over into any other areas of Rob’s life that he can let go?
Malika: Indeed, it is true. It is a fear of how he will be seen in the eyes of others. But as he is learning, it is really and truly less about how others see him and how he sees himself. It really is a fear of not being good at it. But he is learning … and believe it or not, he is way better at being publicly silly now than he used to be!
Teamamte 2: Thank you.
Malika: With that I will let you go. We so love being with all of you. Thank you so much for inviting me into your circle.
Teammate 2: Pleasure to have connected with you.
Malika: Farewell
